Relationships are a critical part of our healthy and happy existence. The relationship with a partner is often a major part of our life, a critical aspect of our personal happiness and mental health. A good relationship with a partner serves to protect us and support us through life. Most couples that run into difficulties in their relationship make a valiant effort to solve the problem by themselves. Just as in the case of individual mental health issues, this is not always possible. I believe strongly that a relationship is a valuable thing that should be cherished and is worth working on and saving. Relationships must evolve over time as the partners and external circumstances change. Often we run into challenges that we never imagined at the outset of the relationship and we are ill equipped to deal with. Below is a partial list:
- Cultural clashes
- Internet addictions
- Blended families
- Communication problems
- Sexual difficulties
- Conflicts about child rearing
- Changing roles, such as retirement
Good results in couple and marital therapy requires a good assessment of each participant as well as a full understanding of the dynamics of the relationship. For this reason I will first meet with each individual for 1-2 sessions, followed by a meeting with both parties. After that I will have a good idea of your challenges, and how to help both of you grow into a more satisfying, mature and rewarding relationship. Sometimes in the course of therapy I’ll meet each one of you individually again, according to your needs, and what comes up in the sessions.
Frequently Asked Questions
The following questions are commonly asked by people inquiring about couple therapy.
1. Will our health insurance help pay for our therapy? Unfortunately, no. All insurance companies are adamant that they do not pay for couple therapy, since it is not a medical necessity. You can use your flexible health account for that.
2. How long will couple therapy take? It varies. Usually 6 months to a year.
3. What makes a couple therapist different from any other therapist? Couple therapist had a specialized training for that. Being a skilled individual therapist does not necessarily mean that the person knows how to do couple therapy. A couple therapist is committed to save the relationship.
4. What if my partner has an affair? If the affair is still ongoing, there is no point in coming for couple therapy. In that case, the one that is involved needs to go for individual counseling first.